I'm not sure where to begin, so here goes nothing. I was born July 1st, 1981 at Foothills Hospital in Calgary to a Sandra Palmer and Rob Heister.
Its sounds crazy, but your profile picture is like looking in the mirror at myself. Ha, ha, right. What an email to get on a Tuesday morning. Maybe I'm way off here, and I can't imagine getting a letter like this if I'm terribly wrong, and if so, I apologize for the confusion.
I just entered my name in the Alberta Adoption Agency over a month ago, searching for any info on my birth parents- a part of me that's always been missing. I've just received the documents in the mail and I'm overcome with excitement and a heap of fears, of course. You share the same maiden name, home and age as my birth mother, so I thought I'd give it a try.
If I am right, my intentions are to first to THANK YOU for giving me my life, something I've wanted to say to you since I was a little girl. Second, to get an idea of where I've come from.
I have no idea if your family knows about me, or if you are interested in any kind of contact, or if you've been looking for me... I've been curious about you my whole life- my mother explained to me at a very young age- "You weren't born in my tummy honey, you were born in my heart."
I know a few things about you (the info you left me- thank you for that) like you love reading and writing poetry (so do I), enjoy swimming and canoeing, and were in university at the time of your pregnancy, and that I came 2 weeks early.
I can't imagine what you went through to give me up. Your strength has always inspired me. Again, my apologies if you are not the Sandi I'm looking for. I don't want to write a novella to the wrong person!
If you are the Sandra Palmer I am searching for, I am thrilled you are well and just as beautiful as I imagined.
Looking forward to hearing from you either way.
Thanks so much,
My heart is pounding and my hands are shaking –not from anxiety but from an overwhelming sense of joy as you are indeed the beautiful little baby girl I gave birth to. I have thought of you so often over the past 29 years and have always prayed that I made the right decision to give you up for adoption. Your mother’s explanation that you were “born in her heart” eases my mind as that is how a loving mommy would explain adoption to her little one.
I am sure that you must have countless questions to ask and so do I! Briefly - I am married and have two other daughters (17 and 13). My husband has always known about you and will be thrilled to hear that you have contacted me. My parents are both alive and living in Calgary and I have two older sisters.
Lane, I don’t know what relationship you wish to have with me and I will honour whatever decision you make – my heart hopes that it will be more than information sharing.
After reading this letter, I was an ocean of tears. I was in shock, but also feeling complete elation. I found her, I really found her! The feeling of her loving acceptance and excitement was the biggest relief of my life. I danced around the room like a crazy woman and twirled Morgan around in my arms. And two sisters? What an awesome surprise. The letters that went back and forth after this were amazing. Our writing was so similar, my husband and her family had a heck of a time telling who was writing- her or me. This weekend, we planned the reunion. She would bring her family to Edmonton to meet us for the first time. To see her face for the first time was the most blissful feeling. We held each other tight, soul-gazed, snuggled and cried. Oh, we cried.
To learn about my family history, to understand my roots, to fall in love with her and her family so easily, for it to be that comfortable, was more than I could have ever asked for. I feel so incredibly fortunate to have another family on top of all the loved ones already near and dear to me, three sisters, one brother, aunties and uncles, cousins and grandparents is a dream- all who can't want to meet me. Life is full of surprises but this one takes the cake- I am so blessed. Here are some pics from the reunion!
My 14-year old sister who has such an old soul. What an amazing young woman. I can't wait for many nights of sharing stories, our lives and chick flicks!